tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post220269113723288686..comments2023-10-01T02:49:46.687-07:00Comments on She's Come Undone...: Frozenmargarethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16494588299838654564noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-71930213629644308552009-11-03T08:28:14.552-08:002009-11-03T08:28:14.552-08:00I just want you to know how much I am thinking of ...I just want you to know how much I am thinking of you and your sweet Calvin as these difficult dates approach. <br /><br />Many, many hugsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-69051579497173496782009-11-02T04:16:43.402-08:002009-11-02T04:16:43.402-08:00Life will never be the way it was before Calvin bu...Life will never be the way it was before Calvin but it CAN be beautiful and it CAN be good and it CAN be filled with hope again. It's just so hard to see it through the pain. There is no timetable for healing, it is ongoing, fluid and oh so bumpy.But you WILL find your own peace.<br /><br />Margaret I am SO pleased to tell you that you have won a page with Calvin's name on it in my giveaway!<br /><br />Drop me a line with your address so I can get it to you as soon as I can.<br /><br />xxxBarbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01484695553612265127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-35967184933534460812009-10-30T07:18:19.048-07:002009-10-30T07:18:19.048-07:00I have been through one birthday so far, and still...I have been through one birthday so far, and still have another to get through. The days are long and hard. Its really hard to accept that this is what reality is. That instead of celebrating with cake, candles and presents we are visiting a cemetery. Its not normal. We did make sure to celebrate E's birthday though, and not just grieve. We did go and visit him, bring him some 1st birthday boy stuff and balloons, and we released some balloons in the sky for him. We did cupcakes and candles for him, and even sang. We also went out to dinner, to celebrate him, his life - even though it was too short, and what he still is in our life. Its not the birthdays I ever imagined, but its how we will always celebrate. We will always mark those days as their special days, just like if they were here with us. They will be different, but still a day of celebration...and of course some tears.<br /><br />*hugs*Kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15134970929000997104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-51608222723922447182009-10-29T12:49:19.333-07:002009-10-29T12:49:19.333-07:00These days will be hard. I'm sorry you're ...These days will be hard. I'm sorry you're hurting and that Calvin will not be there with you on his special day.<br /> I am thinking about you.<br /> I certainly thought of you yesterday when I opened my mailbox pulled out a package of candy from one of the sweetest girls I've never met.<br /> You put a smile on my face and I intend to return the favor.<br /><br /> I understand where you are with this post. It's so sad and I've been there. Would it make you feel any better to know that next year will be different. It will be painful yes, but a little more dull, not quite so fresh and it will have a different vibe. Does that make any sense?<br /><br /> Thank you so much for your thoughtful gift.<br /> Thinking of you xoxoxLindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02732100851347489982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-61411265002791639622009-10-28T22:37:58.327-07:002009-10-28T22:37:58.327-07:00I have already lived through Akul's first bir...I have already lived through Akul's first birthday so many times...and yes, my world is completely destroyed. I understand what you say...totally.Akul's mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02731802741502891348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-60045596998305527802009-10-28T11:10:07.256-07:002009-10-28T11:10:07.256-07:00I second what Once a Mother said. Life will never ...I second what Once a Mother said. Life will never be what we once knew it to be. That would be impossible. I hope you can embrace this new normal that has been forced into your life and find beauty. I hope and pray that your marriage becomes even closer than it has ever been. I too have had a wonderful husband who doesn't always get me, actually probably never gets me but gives me space to grieve. One of my dear friends, Rachel from Waiting for Morning has been a life saver to me. Her marriage has been restored after the loss of their twins. I hope you can read through her blog and rebuild that hope because there really are others who have done it. Like Mary said, it helps me to read about other Moms like me. <br /><br />Here is her blog if you wish to visit:<br /><br />www.aubreyandellie.blogspot.comFranchescahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08362049658761399255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-31953349699923140952009-10-28T10:30:43.050-07:002009-10-28T10:30:43.050-07:00I will be praying for you as Calvin's angel da...I will be praying for you as Calvin's angel day approaches. May God bless you and keep you and your family during this difficult time.Allison (Ali)https://www.blogger.com/profile/00731485021895799034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-15900454343131470742009-10-28T10:00:37.900-07:002009-10-28T10:00:37.900-07:00I can relate to your feeling of watching your life...I can relate to your feeling of watching your life fall apart in front of your eyes. The worst part is not knowing how to stop it and also not being able to stop it. I guess we have to accept our new "normal" and find a way to cope with it. It is not easy but I find other moms help me trememdously! I was just thiking the other day about how it just isnt right. Life is not supposed to go on without our precious babies! How unfair. Why them? I suppose there are no answers and all we can really do is trust in God, even when that is hard to do. <br />Love, Hugs, and Prayers coming your way!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-5729874124699904952009-10-28T08:14:46.336-07:002009-10-28T08:14:46.336-07:00Wow. I can relate to a lot of your feelings, and e...Wow. I can relate to a lot of your feelings, and expecially these words. "I'm so tired of feeling suspended in my own life, watching everything around me fall apart. I hate to think this is where my life has come to and that I have to accept it."<br /><br />I don't think life will ever get back to where it was before Calvin, or in my case, before Peyton. It just wont so I think that if we wait for that, we will wait forever. I can't imagine how difficult it must be to be dealing with marital problems on top of grieving, I guess I have been lucky in that my husband has pretty much respected my need to totally fall apart.<br /><br />I think this is the time, the time to try and work things out with Shane, the time to try and find beauty in your life together, as impossible as it seems without your sweet Calvin. But I think, in doing so, you also need to find beauty in eachother, in the new Margaret and the new Shane, neither of you are the way you were before this loss, how could you be? It is impossible.<br /><br />At the end of the day, eleven months later, you are still together and that says something. Maybe not together in the way you used to be, not even in the way you would have hoped you would be in this situation, but together nonetheless. To me, that alone brings great promise.<br /><br />Sending you prayers for peace in your home and in your heart.Once A Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15974149780531831971noreply@blogger.com