tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post2924338551337586887..comments2023-10-01T02:49:46.687-07:00Comments on She's Come Undone...: The Meltdownmargarethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16494588299838654564noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-84154727619668665852009-07-01T14:00:17.076-07:002009-07-01T14:00:17.076-07:00Oh Margaret. I'm so sorry. Sometimes something...Oh Margaret. I'm so sorry. Sometimes something has to give.<br /><br />My partner keeps telling me not to bottle it up and share it with him but I don't want him to feel my utter despair and so he gets to see the pressure cooker go off from time to time.<br /><br />I wish you peace.<br /><br />xxxBarbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01484695553612265127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-26753061689427463212009-07-01T04:32:37.289-07:002009-07-01T04:32:37.289-07:00I read your post today on my mobile phone, thanks ...I read your post today on my mobile phone, thanks to goog.le rea.der and whilst sitting in that coffee shop my heart broke for you. I know where you are, my dear friend. You know I was there just a couple of short weeks ago. It sucks. It's hurting my heart just knowing the depths you've just been to. And knowing too, just how it feels to have a meltdown in front of anyone, even our beautiful Shane-husbands :-)<br />Sending you much love and big, big hugs right now xxxx<br /><br />http://allthelittleponies.blogspot.combirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10535651324470491561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-50011880614850503062009-07-01T04:06:18.344-07:002009-07-01T04:06:18.344-07:00Oh Margaret.
I wish that I had something to say t...Oh Margaret. <br />I wish that I had something to say that would help. Just try and get through the unbearable one bit at a time. <br />I know those feelings of embarassment and regret all too well. I'm not very good at holding my feelings in either.<br />I've often thought that I let one of my daughters go into the dark alone, that I should have gone with her or that all three of us should have died together. <br />Just know that we are out here, all of us in babylost land. We know you aren't crazy. We are never going to be horrified or judge you. You don't have to feel embarrassed or regretful here with us. <br />Personally, I don't think it is us that has it wrong. It is the stupid world we live in where a mother can lose her child but is still expected to carry on as though nothing has happened. <br />In my humble opinion, THAT is crazy. <br />Not us.Catherine Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618295389400457254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-89289161345830335792009-06-30T21:20:32.797-07:002009-06-30T21:20:32.797-07:00I have been where you are. I often wanted to join ...I have been where you are. I often wanted to join Zoe, then suffered the guilt about what that would do to L.O. I have gotten very close to trying it once, on my very worst day ever.<br /> On many a cold night I have wanted to dig her up and warm her. I have wished that I had her cremated so as not to even have to think these thoughts.<br /> The only thing you showed to your husband was that you are human and sad and lonely.<br /> I know it won't make you feel better but you are doing better than I was less a year out.<br /> Time, as afraid as you are that it will separate you from Calvin's memory, will soothe your raw soul.<br /> It's impossible to forget Calvin, but it's possible that some more time will take away some of the sting. As hard as it is, have some patience with yourself.<br /> I didn't begin to feel more like myself for a good 18 months, and you know I still struggle.<br /> You've been in my thoughts and prayers. I pray your husband understands you a little better now.<br /> I'm sorry you're struggling. I know how it burns.<br /> Much Love, LindsayLindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02732100851347489982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-42471804892572191762009-06-30T20:57:28.895-07:002009-06-30T20:57:28.895-07:00Sometimes sorrow is like being crazy. Especially ...Sometimes sorrow is like being crazy. Especially when it appears to us that everyone around us is "OK". And maybe they are or maybe they're not. But just because others appear OK, does not make us crazy. <br />Our unbearable sorrow makes us mums. Those other people are not mums. <br />I love my husband more than anything in the whole world, but I know for a fact that he deals with his sorrow in a very different way than I do. My sorrow makes me act crazy too ... his doesn't.<br />Big ((hugs)) to you -- being a babylost mum is bloody awful and hard work.Mirnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13012378787039340510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-74176633599911598852009-06-30T20:03:56.495-07:002009-06-30T20:03:56.495-07:00You and I are a lot alike. I'm also very emot...You and I are a lot alike. I'm also very emotional and wear it all on my sleeve. Don't think you're crazy, not one bit. You're sad and you have every right to be. We all do.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />ShannonShannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02338130051182407335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-23339305015736390842009-06-30T19:02:39.011-07:002009-06-30T19:02:39.011-07:00Margaret you have spoken so many of my thoughts. J...Margaret you have spoken so many of my thoughts. Just to be with him, I would do anything. You are not alone. This grief process plays with the mind.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16071927168876473000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-7319672977172159752009-06-30T17:19:26.221-07:002009-06-30T17:19:26.221-07:00I have had so many of the same feelings Margaret. ...I have had so many of the same feelings Margaret. Thanks for writing so honestly about them all and making me feel normal (unless we are both batshit crazy, I'm not sure). You are so not alone. I wish he was here with you.Hope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-1936163090227465902009-06-30T16:59:33.155-07:002009-06-30T16:59:33.155-07:00Oh, honey. Of course you miss him that much. It...Oh, honey. Of course you miss him that much. It's too much to bear sometimes. Sending you much love & hoping you get a reprieve from the hopelessness and despair for a little bit. ((Hugs))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com