tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post950179838311147324..comments2023-10-01T02:49:46.687-07:00Comments on She's Come Undone...: Disappointmentmargarethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16494588299838654564noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-38508678287466378972010-02-08T12:46:21.466-08:002010-02-08T12:46:21.466-08:00Margaret, i am just reeling! i am aghast at what ...Margaret, i am just reeling! i am aghast at what you've had to put up with through the years. this woman takes the cake. all of what she said this trip was abhorrent, but talking about your children just crosses the line. please take Shane with you next time! have him give her what for!<br />stay strong lady! <br />much love, christyLeila's mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13220692586558542268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-10145146563881548072010-02-04T14:55:13.419-08:002010-02-04T14:55:13.419-08:00Margaret -
Just like everyone else in these comme...Margaret -<br /><br />Just like everyone else in these comments, I'm left in shock, anger, and sorrow. I know it's easier said than done, but you have NO NEED of her venom. She is purely toxic and has only one desire - to make those around her as miserable as she is. You are a much kinder person than I. I would not have been able to restrain myself. I would have either 1) flat out killed her 2) punched her till I felt better or 3) would have vented with a profanity laced tirade that would have made a sailor blush. Each of the above choices would have been followed by going up to my mother, giving her a big hug saying "Mom, I love you, I have no idea how such a wicked woman could have ever raised someone as wonderful as you!" Smile at gran and walk away...<br /><br />I'm so sorry for your added pain. Please know we all support you here, because we "Get it." <br /><br />Peace & Love,<br />BenA Dragonfly's Embracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02354910020379862444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-36599841717559060982010-02-02T20:49:13.160-08:002010-02-02T20:49:13.160-08:00((hugs)). i'm finally caught up on your blogs,...((hugs)). i'm finally caught up on your blogs, and i'm so sorry for the way for grandmother is to you. i know you love your mother so much, and you are facing hell to see her. i know what you mean about not wanting your family's negativity and hurtfulness affect you, but being hurt by it just the same. you are wonderful mother. you are a beautiful person. and you are so much more than those horrid words from your grandmother.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-68575662376990217392010-02-01T19:54:20.110-08:002010-02-01T19:54:20.110-08:00She sounds like a true wretch of a person. You can...She sounds like a true wretch of a person. You can see that, we see that. Nothing she says touches you or your precious Calvin. Love to you...Mindy Bizzellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08922051276900053988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-71511222741971121722010-02-01T19:15:59.585-08:002010-02-01T19:15:59.585-08:00Your grandmother is horrible. She should be ashame...Your grandmother is horrible. She should be ashamed of herself for her behaviour. For the way she spoke to you now and over the years. She is bitter, and a very angry person. She hates her own life and feels the need to put others down to make herself feel better. I'm so sorry she was so hateful. Please don't take a single word she said to hear. I know its easier said then done, but please try to let it roll out of our mind. Think wonderful thoughts about Calvin and your beautiful little girls. You have a wonderful husband and amazing children. You are an incredible mother to all 3 of your children. Tell yourself that every day, okay? Lots of *hugs*Kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15134970929000997104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-34020122007718345242010-01-31T17:37:39.228-08:002010-01-31T17:37:39.228-08:00Oh my goodness, I cannot believe how horribly she ...Oh my goodness, I cannot believe how horribly she treated you! I'm so sorry you had to listen to all that she spewed at you. What a very bitter and mean woman.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15431384515813384025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-55925355401393549332010-01-31T17:12:32.325-08:002010-01-31T17:12:32.325-08:00All I can say is WOW. Your grandmother is a ridic...All I can say is WOW. Your grandmother is a ridiculous person. I have cut relatives out of my life who weren't nearly as abusive as she. Like Emily said: Totally toxic. You don't deserve that. Take care of yourself.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03555672583756632794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-53022144358894074692010-01-31T10:22:23.311-08:002010-01-31T10:22:23.311-08:00It really sounds like your grandmother has spent h...It really sounds like your grandmother has spent her entire life harboring bitterness and resentment toward the entire world because of the things that happened in her youth. I am so sorry that you had to endure her words and lack of emotion. I know that you were so hoping for a different outcome, but I agree with Akul's mama - I prefer to include only those who I know will help with and support my healing. Even before Gracie died, I didn't have much time for stupid drama, and now I really don't have the time or energy for it. It sounds like the drama that your family creates just sucks the life out of you (and has been for some time) - I am so sorry for that. I have not been in your exact situation, but something similar with some of my relatives, and it can be exhausting. Wishing you tons of strength and warm bear hugs. Wishing you a peaceful week.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14814373587860281157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-34720738705100169102010-01-30T20:14:39.200-08:002010-01-30T20:14:39.200-08:00Margaret,
I prefer to ignore people who interfer...Margaret, <br /><br />I prefer to ignore people who interfere with my healing. Sometimes I really have no energy to deal with those who have issues - especillay after I lost Akul. Many hugssssssss.Akul's mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02731802741502891348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-37576569715203872192010-01-30T14:17:10.620-08:002010-01-30T14:17:10.620-08:00Okay I tried to write a comment a little while ago...Okay I tried to write a comment a little while ago but I was too darn angry.<br /><br />How dare she? How dare she say anything about anyone's weight? It's rude. It's rude to make unasked for comments on the appearance of another person, even if they are someone in your family. <br /><br />But it was what she said about your sweet twins that really made me mad. I'm so mad my hands are shaking. To comment on the weight of a BABY. She should just be happy that Georgia is a wonderful, healthy little girl. <br />And what sort of person would call a headstone a waste of money?<br /><br />Oh Margaret, just try to let it wash over you. She is obviously an extremely bitter woman. I wish she hadn't hurt you so badly. I wish that she hadn't made you feel self-conscious about your own body and I'm so, so sorry that she would say anything about your children. <br /><br />Just look at your loving husband and your beautiful children and think of all the people who love you. Heck, I've never even met you and I love you! I can't say it better than Lindsay, at least your girls and their children will NEVER receive treatment like this from their mama. So, so sorry Margaret. I'm going to go and stamp up and down my stairs a couple of times now as I'm STILL mad with your grandmother.Catherine Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618295389400457254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-7861702035322188362010-01-30T12:11:37.400-08:002010-01-30T12:11:37.400-08:00What a horrible visit. How painful, how hurtful. ...What a horrible visit. How painful, how hurtful. I am so sorry. I know that you know this, but no amount of money you spend on your son is wasted! He is missing out on a lifetime of gifts that he deserves! Plus, our headstones for our children are a permanent fixture that tell the world our children lived, were important, were loved. Nothing can replace them.<br /><br />Praying for healing from this horrible pain.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04683239109034382788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-75255161096909595362010-01-30T11:01:14.384-08:002010-01-30T11:01:14.384-08:00Oh Honey! I am so sorry! What a nasty, bitter pe...Oh Honey! I am so sorry! What a nasty, bitter person. I can only wonder what she has gone through in her life to make her this way. I am saying a prayer that she will realize her meanness and come around, and ask forgiveness for you- all all- that she has hurt.<br /><br /> I am so sorry you had to go through that. You are beautiful, your children are beautiful, and none of you deserve that. I am so sorry!Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-84084888506337560062010-01-30T07:48:27.851-08:002010-01-30T07:48:27.851-08:00Your grandmother sounds like a sad bitter old woma...Your grandmother sounds like a sad bitter old woman. I am SO sorry you have to endure her mean spirit.<br /> I know it's impossible, but please, PLEASE try to let her words drip off of you. It seems that she gets some sick joy from hurting you and that's wrong.<br /> I know how it feels to crave some bit of love or respect from your family and to be let down. I'm sorry she let you down.<br /> You are beautiful and you have done the best you can. Calvin and your girls are lucky to have a mother like you. at least you know that your girls with have a mother and their children, a grandmother, who would never make them feel the way your's has.<br /> love you..Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02732100851347489982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-9648303633552290472010-01-29T17:25:53.589-08:002010-01-29T17:25:53.589-08:00I am speechless. I am so very sorry you had to end...I am speechless. I am so very sorry you had to endure that.Maloryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15474835486480023516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-80904594703385812772010-01-29T14:32:19.365-08:002010-01-29T14:32:19.365-08:00Dear Margaret, I had to actually stop reading this...Dear Margaret, I had to actually stop reading this half way through because I was so sick inside reading that you had to endure this. <br /><br />I'm sorry that your grandmother has so much anger and bitterness inside of her that she feels the need to criticize you and your life, and make you hurt. <br /><br />My prayer is for you to forget her words and remember only the kindness and love you saw in your mother's eyes. <br /><br />I could write a whole comment on each thing that she said, but instead I want you to look at the ridiculousness of each comment and brush it away. She. Has. No. Idea. Her words are worth nothing. Calling a cute chubby baby fat? Please. Saying that giving a child a funeral is a waste? I mean, these comments don't even make sense, and it is hard to give credit to anyone who would say then or think them. <br /><br />I know inside of you, you wish to have her love and approval. I know you want it so bad. But she is unwilling to give it, so instead accept it from ALL the other people who want to give it to you. Wrap their love around you so tight. God knows your relationship with Him is not for the weak. I wish I could erase the hurt for you. You do not deserve this. <br /><br />Please breathe deep and love yourself for trying, and let go as much as you can...<br /><br />Much much much love.... xxooJennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10607355428134594306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-66704401383247876632010-01-29T13:34:06.134-08:002010-01-29T13:34:06.134-08:00That sounds horrid. I think there are times when y...That sounds horrid. I think there are times when you need to realize that you've done all you can, but sometimes people will never change or treat us they way we deserve and you have the right to never let them hurt you again. She has lost the right to be in your lives, if you ask me.<br />So sorry it's been so awful. <br /><br />-Amanda (kickyboots.com)Amanda Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04726641075213214519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-50750063495744240242010-01-29T12:07:19.856-08:002010-01-29T12:07:19.856-08:00Oh my goodness.
I hope you know that all of that ...Oh my goodness.<br /><br />I hope you know that all of that nastiness was about her. None of it was about you. You are wonderful. Yes you are.<br /><br />I have battled with my weight most of my life and since losing George and losing my job because of losing George I struggle even more. But it doesn't mean that I deserve to be treated badly because of it. And neither do you.<br /><br />Snuggle down with those babes and your man, surround yourself with love and try to forget those bitter words.<br /><br />Did I mention that you are wonderful?<br /><br />xxxBarbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01484695553612265127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-22042851838014721102010-01-29T11:26:00.974-08:002010-01-29T11:26:00.974-08:00OMG...wow...I am SO SO sorry that you had to put u...OMG...wow...I am SO SO sorry that you had to put up with that. What does she say if to tell her you dont care what she thinks and to shut the F up? You are beautiful just the way you are and so are your girls, don't let anyone tell you any different! Sending you lots of love my dear!!<br /><br />NicolleWith Out My Punkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18281873659003034133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-61140907014754165272010-01-29T09:21:47.704-08:002010-01-29T09:21:47.704-08:00*hugs* i am so sorry that you drove there only to ...*hugs* i am so sorry that you drove there only to have your heart emotionally battered. You absolutely do not deserve such torment. you are such a wonderful person and so is your family. please remember that.Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02866977965172277031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-36960201445035355722010-01-29T08:28:51.065-08:002010-01-29T08:28:51.065-08:00I am so sorry that your trip was so unbearable. S...I am so sorry that your trip was so unbearable. She sounds like a very bitter unhappy woman who is taking her anger at herself out on everyone else in her life.<br /><br />And to say those things about calvin, well that just makes me want to give her a piece of my mind for you.<br /><br />Just remember you are beautiful and your girls are too. ~~hugs~~ thinking of you.Allison (Ali)https://www.blogger.com/profile/00731485021895799034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-59907738737413035482010-01-29T07:29:17.541-08:002010-01-29T07:29:17.541-08:00I was so hoping that this trip would be good for y...I was so hoping that this trip would be good for you. I am sorry it did not turn out how you wanted. It is horrible that you had to endure the pain of her making you feel the way she did. I know in time you will find the strength to go back for your mom. As always, I am thinking about you and sweet Calvin. xoJillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15349971620040597427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-17283473074330387492010-01-29T07:28:50.828-08:002010-01-29T07:28:50.828-08:00Oh Margaret, that is just terrible! I can't e...Oh Margaret, that is just terrible! I can't even imagine a grandmother being so hateful and mean! No wonder you don't visit home often... who needs it?<br /><br />So sorry the trip was so stressful. And Georgia is perfect the way she is...Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05569964047627902570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-34023373088896937712010-01-29T04:59:58.551-08:002010-01-29T04:59:58.551-08:00Wow! That in one seriously toxic woman! You'...Wow! That in one seriously toxic woman! You're a saint for bearing it without violence (I'm not sure I could have). I'm sure God is proud of you for doing the right thing.<br /><br />We always got your back, girl! ((hugs))Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02100182709422069894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-16702664971274317822010-01-29T01:13:37.142-08:002010-01-29T01:13:37.142-08:00I hope you don't plan ever to go back without ...I hope you don't plan ever to go back without Shane again.<br /><br />I'm so so sorry she treated you like that. She must be very damaged to be so cruel, but that's no excuse. <br /><br />This is a hard question and might upset you, but thinking about the answer might help you stop giving her so much power. Why do you care what she thinks, when she has proven that she doesn't care about what is important to you and what you need? <br /><br />Listen to your bloggy friends who understand and care. Please don't give her the power to keep on hurting you so, so badly.<br /><br />Well done for speaking up. It must have been so, so hard.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12523875341438470968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5342989442322137175.post-45320647412224353932010-01-28T21:49:47.221-08:002010-01-28T21:49:47.221-08:00I'm so angry reading this! I can't believ...I'm so angry reading this! I can't believe how badly you are treated. What happened in your Grandma's life to make her so hateful and bitter!? I'm glad you have the support of your husband and children... I wish I could give you a hug- how far away do you live? :)Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03902621165920708841noreply@blogger.com