To Winter
3 years ago
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Out of the Loop
It seems as if I am out of the loop. I don't know how it happened or when but today I had the shocking revelation that there are ALOT of new babylost mamas in our community who I have never met. And suddenly I wonder if I have been following too many blogs to keep up with lately because it saddens me that I have not met some of you and extended my hand in friendship and support. I'm not only shocked by the sheer number of us out here, I'm saddened. It feels like I am a veteran of grief now, someone who has gone on before to hack away at some of the path in the journey for others to follow behind. I guess part of me was so busy looking ahead that I forgot to look back and take time to recognize those souls trudging the path behind me. With this bit of insight, I would like to ask if there are those of you reading who have lost a child and whom I haven't quite "met" yet, could you leave me a comment, let me know your child's name and a bit about yourself and I will make it a priority to stop by your blog to say hello, offer you a hug and let you know that I am here and that I care...because I do. Hugs to all the mamas, none of who should be walking this journey.
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I'm finding myself checking the blogs of mothers whose babies have heart defects less and less frequently as well.
ReplyDeleteMy name is Sarita Boyette and I don't have a blog right now.I am working toward starting one.My 1st child, Meredith, was born and died in 1974. She passed due to prematurity. Reading other moms' blogs has helped me tremendously, much better than some of the counselors I have been to.Please accept my sympathy for the loss of your precious Calvin.
ReplyDeleteI did have 3 other babies after her and they are all grown, all blessings.
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hi. my name is michelle. xavier ian was stillborn at 18 weeks gestation (measured 15 weeks gestation) june 4, 2009. i blog at http://swords9603.blogspot.com/ so feel free to come visit. i have two older children (michael is 5 and andi is 3) and they are what have kept me going this past year. i am a christian and God has definitely held me throughout this past year as well. my husband and i don't see eye to eye, but we are currently in counseling. we don't know why xavier died and we aren't having anymore babies. i am sad more than i am happy, but i hear that gets better with time. i sure hope so.
ReplyDeletethere is only so much time to go around. you can't support every single person who loses a baby. you have enough going on yourself.
ReplyDeletemy name is beth. i go by B on the internet but i answer to either. i found out in november at 17 weeks that my baby had stopped growing at 13 weeks. we'd had a healthy ultrasound at 11+5. my due date would have been 6th may. my husband didn't want to name the baby, but i think of it as 'snowflake' (we didn't get to find out if it was a boy or a girl).
thank you for asking.
You already know me! :) I just wanted to tell you that you have such a wonderful heart. xo
ReplyDeleteI agree..I find new blogs everyday and it saddens me to no end.. and I too feel like a veteran in this..and really for either of us, it really hasn't been that long..((hugs))
ReplyDeleteYou are such a kind soul. You were one of the first people to 'help' me and to 'care' and i will never forget that. I thank you every day.
ReplyDeletewishing you gentle days
Angel's Mummy x
You know me too! :) There are way too many of us and it does make me so sad. XO
ReplyDeleteMargaret, You are such a wonderful human being. I'm so glad I know you that I can't describe it!
ReplyDeleteLove you!
My name is Paula. My son Devyn was born still at 16 weeks 5 days. I do have a blog but have not updated in quite some time. I spend a lot of time on GLOW.
ReplyDeleteIt does seem like there have been a lot more lately
ReplyDeleteYou already know my face, too. It is sadly amazing how many join this club in such a short period of time, especially when you think about how much it's just not talked about - and how much it is just swept under the rug. It definitely seems like more and more BLMs appear during the times that I am away from blogland for a while.
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