Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Still Waiting

We ordered Calvin's marker May 13. It's still not here and I am aggravated beyond belief. At the time we buried Calvin, it was the end of November and the city was no longer installing markers because it was winter. The funeral director advised Shane and I to take our time on deciding what to have it say so when we went in at the beginning of May, we were told it would take six to eight weeks. When it still wasn't installed at the beginning of August I called the funeral home to find out what was going on and was told that the company that makes the markers was behind schedule and that it was due to be shipped out August 17th. I have checked every second day since then and it is still not installed. I am heartbroken my boy has been without a grave marker for almost a year and his father can't bring himself to go to the cemetery until it is installed. By the time it gets here I am afraid it will be too late to bring fresh flowers or that it will be so cool that I won't comfortably be able to spend any time there with him. I'm angry and feel like this is yet one more injustice to my beautiful son. The longer it takes, the more upset I am getting and I am questioning why we have spent the kind of money we did on something that we have yet to see. If it is not installed by the end of the week, the funeral home is going to wish they had never had to deal with me after I get done. I doubt very much if it was one of their children lying in the ground without a grave marker that it would be taking this long. Please keep your fingers crossed for me that Calvin's marker is installed in the next few days so that I can spend time with him there while the sun still shines.

5 comments:

  1. You would think people that work in that industry would be a tad more sympathetic. I'm so sorry hun *hugs*

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  2. The mortuary where my girls are buried were supposed to notify us when their marker was set. They never did, we just happened to go there the day it was laid. It may not seem like a big deal to them, but I was so pissed. This is one of the very few things I have and I wanted to be there, I did not want to miss it. I felt like I had missed one of their milestones. I wish the people who work in the industry were a little more understanding of the little things. xx

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  3. When Akul passed away I realised that dying was just a business for many. I really hope you get the marker soon.

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  4. I'm sorry that you are waiting Margaret....that must be so hard. Hoping that it's done soon so you can be with your boy xx

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  5. i really hope it is here by now! i'd like to slap them upside the head. they really are so insensitive in that industry, it drives me mad. and you're definately right, if it were their child, this wouldn't happen.
    XO

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